What To Do

Do you want to be heard, hugged or helped? 

Excellent question, and far, far better than jumping in to help without finding out if one wants that. Too often women get the mansplaining when all we want is an ear. And when we say that and decline the aid, we, often, are seen as bitchy, ungrateful women. 

But, to be fair. I've realized I, too, have done the jumping in in the past. Seeing this in the New York Times a few months ago, I am continuing to try to step back and use this as a guide. Last night I was trying to explain the concept to another. Hence, the reviewing of it today.

If people learned to listen first, empathize second and only, if wanted and after asking, gave advice, the world would be a much better and more respectful place.  

Carpe Diem

Just a few weeks ago, I wrote a friend about the things I do to keep moving. Some were not, as I said, really a getting up off the couch thing. But. What they were were activities to keep my mind moving. 

I sit for one to two hours in the morning, reading the heavy stuff, or as heavy as I get: New Yorker and The Week.  During the rest of the day until I quit at night, usually around the witching hour of 7:30, I try to keep active, changing from one task to another. Some keep my body in motion and some my mind. 

This article was based on the idea that workers need to take breaks to be better at their jobs. I so very much agree. In life, work or pleasure, we need to know ourselves, our rhythms, and our strengths and weaknesses. We need to plan our day accordingly. 

Too often time manages people instead of us managing time. Carpe diem: seize the day or seize the moment. I say seize the moments and you'll seize your day.

So says the eternal list maker (and breaker. I don't always get through my lists, like dusting. It sits on the list for weeks until I've capitalized the whole word and added three exclamation points to it.)