Do you want to be heard, hugged or helped?
Excellent question, and far, far better than jumping in to help without finding out if one wants that. Too often women get the mansplaining when all we want is an ear. And when we say that and decline the aid, we, often, are seen as bitchy, ungrateful women.
But, to be fair. I've realized I, too, have done the jumping in in the past. Seeing this in the New York Times a few months ago, I am continuing to try to step back and use this as a guide. Last night I was trying to explain the concept to another. Hence, the reviewing of it today.
If people learned to listen first, empathize second and only, if wanted and after asking, gave advice, the world would be a much better and more respectful place.
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